Beyond the Group Chat Ghosting

When was the last time you felt like part of a crowd that actually mattered?

It feels like we all collectively forgot how to be "us" somewhere between 2020 and now. In places like Thunder Bay or Kenora, the distance between us isn't just kilometers of muskeg and pine trees anymore; it’s a mental barrier. We got so used to our own bubbles that the idea of showing up to a community hall or a local gallery opening feels like a massive chore. But honestly, your bedroom walls are starting to look like a cage, and that digital tether isn't enough to sustain a real life. Overcoming social isolation isn't about becoming an overnight extrovert; it’s about acknowledging that the "new normal" we settled into is actually just a slow-motion loneliness.

Let’s get real about the "social battery" myth. Yes, burnout is a thing, but isolation is a different beast that feeds on its own tail. You think you’re resting by avoiding people, but you’re actually just stagnating. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) tells us that we have to move toward our values even when it feels cringe or uncomfortable. If you value creativity and connection, staying home is a betrayal of that value. It’s okay to feel anxious about re-entering the world. That’s just your brain trying to protect you from a threat that doesn’t exist anymore. Your mission isn't to be the life of the party; it’s just to occupy space in the same room as other humans.

Our local arts collectives are the heartbeat of the North, but they’re currently on life support because we’re all too "tired" to show up. Small organizations in Dryden or Sioux Lookout are struggling because the social glue has dried up. We need to stop waiting for a big invite and start being the one who shows up early to help set up the chairs. Community isn't something you consume; it’s something you build with your own hands. Overcoming social isolation starts with a low-stakes commitment. Go to that pottery workshop. Sit in the back of the open mic night. You don’t even have to talk to anyone the first time—just be there.

Stop waiting for the "vibes" to be perfect before you leave the house. Life in the North is rugged for a reason, and our social lives need that same grit. It’s easy to stay tucked away when it’s minus forty, but that’s when we need each other the most. Reach out to that one person you haven't seen since the "before times" and ask for a coffee, no strings attached. No "we should totally hang out" lies—just a "I'm at the shop at 2 PM, come through if you can." We have to stop treating social interaction like a performance and start treating it like a necessity, because it is.

You aren't failing because you feel lonely; you're just out of practice. Start small. A five-minute conversation with the person at the library, or a DM that isn't just a meme. We’re rebuilding a whole ecosystem here, and every time you choose to engage, you’re adding a brick to the wall. Your presence is literally the medicine the community needs right now. Don't let the isolation win just because it's the path of least resistance. You’re tougher than a Northern winter, and you’re definitely more interesting than your scrolling habit. Let’s get back out there.

Northwestern Ontario Arts, Culture and Recreation

Rooted in Melgund Township, Northwestern Ontario we're exploring arts, culture, and recreation programming that brings our communitiess together. From creative workshops and local exhibitions to youth activities and cultural events, we support rural artists, strengthen community connection, and celebrate the creative spirit of Northwestern Ontario.

Through community-based arts initiatives, recreation programming, and cultural gatherings, Melgund Recreation, Arts and Culture fosters creative expression, collaboration, and long-term sustainability in the northern arts sector. Our work connects residents, empowers youth, and builds pride in local talent across rural Northwestern Ontario.

Learn more about our programs, events, and opportunities at Melgund Recreation, Arts and Culture.