Build With The Willing Few
"Practicing radical acceptance regarding difficult people gives you the mental bandwidth to focus on those who show up."
How to navigate small-town drama and misinformation while building a sustainable northern arts collective.
Why are you letting the local group chat gossip kill your creative spark before you even start?
Living in a small northern town means you’re essentially living in a fishbowl where the water is occasionally a bit murky. We’ve all been there. You want to start a mural project or a zine collective, and suddenly you’re hearing through the grapevine that someone’s cousin’s ex thinks you’re just chasing clout. It’s exhausting. When misinformation and polarization start leaking into the local arts scene, it feels easier to just stay home and rot in front of a screen. But letting the friction stop the flow is exactly how our communities lose their pulse. We have to be more resilient than the rumors.
We need to talk about the capacity trap. We often wait for the perfect conditions—a conflict-free board, a massive budget, and zero drama—before we dare to create something. That is a total fantasy. In the North, we work with what we have got. If your collective is currently three people and a shared bag of chips, that is your starting line. You cannot control who chooses to be bitter or who decides to believe a fake headline they saw on a community Facebook page. You can only control your own decision to show up and build something that actually matters to you.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy tells us that we cannot change our environment by just wishing it were different; we have to change our response to it. When the interpersonal drama starts to feel like high school version 2.0, take a beat. Ask yourself if engaging with that gossip actually serves your mission or your mental health. Usually, it is just a massive energy drain. Practicing a bit of radical acceptance—accepting that some people will always be difficult—gives you the mental bandwidth to focus on the people who are actually ready to pick up a paintbrush or help set up the stage.
Sustainability is not about being liked by everyone in town. It is about building a resilience budget. This means setting hard boundaries with the people who drain the collective’s energy and doubling down on kindness with the ones who are doing the actual work. If you try to please the gatekeepers and the keyboard warriors, you will burn out before the first snow. Kindness is not being a doormat; it is a strategic choice to keep the culture healthy so the project can actually survive the winter.
Focus on the willing few. There is a specific kind of magic in a small, scrappy group that decides to build something against the odds. You do not need the whole town to agree with you to make art that challenges the status quo or brings people together. You just need to be consistent. People notice when something is real and when it is being done for the right reasons. Eventually, that integrity acts as its own filter against the noise and the misinformation. It is how we survive and thrive up here.
Northwestern Ontario Arts, Culture and Recreation
Rooted in Melgund Township, Northwestern Ontario we're exploring arts, culture, and recreation programming that brings our communitiess together. From creative workshops and local exhibitions to youth activities and cultural events, we support rural artists, strengthen community connection, and celebrate the creative spirit of Northwestern Ontario.
Through community-based arts initiatives, recreation programming, and cultural gatherings, Melgund Recreation, Arts and Culture fosters creative expression, collaboration, and long-term sustainability in the northern arts sector. Our work connects residents, empowers youth, and builds pride in local talent across rural Northwestern Ontario.
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